Confession time – I’m slightly ashamed to admit I am a self-proclaimed name snob.
What does this mean exactly… well, put simply I get a little anxious and start breathing heavily if I’ve heard one of my children’s names is in the top 50 most popular. It’s only happened a few times and it wasn’t an official list sooo I’ve let it go for now.
If you’ve read –> My Motherhood Journey then you already know I’ve been naming my children since I was a child myself. Names are a big deal to me, so big in fact when I hear someone is having a baby I’m mostly excited to hear what they’ve named them. Oh, and if they name them before birth and make it public knowledge I find it completely anti-climactic!
Do I judge people based on how they name their children… yes. Otherwise I’m not certain I could call myself a name snob. It is an unfortunate thing, and something I am working on -kinda. I do absolutely keep my opinions to myself, I would never tell another parent I didn’t like the name they chose or make a face at their decision. There are SO many reasons why parents settle on the perfect name for their child and you need to be careful what you say before knowing all the facts. Often times after someone explains why they named their child the way they did I warm up to it, even if I initially didn’t like it.
I’m mostly a snob about names when it is apparent not a lot of thought has gone into the name selection process. For example, these are some of my naming pet peeves –
- First name and last name from very different cultures – especially when it sounds like two different languages are being spoken.
- Unique spelling of a common name – seriously, just spell it the right way.
- Sibling set that doesn’t go well together – I’m not saying the names should rhyme or start with the same letter but they should at least sound like they go together.
- Lack of meaning – if the child isn’t named after someone the name should at least have a good meaning
- Super trendy – I know this can vary based on where you live. Maybe there aren’t 20 little Avas and Aidens running around in your social circles/community, so in that case go for it.
So how did I go about naming my children!? Let me tell you this is a very difficult subject for a name snob. My husband also has a touch of name snobbery in him so that made it even more difficult. Here was our basic process –
- Choose a nationality that goes well with your last name (we chose British since our last name is Cornish)
- Then stick to that nationality for subsequent siblings so make sure you like it and you aren’t limiting future options.
- Write down all the first names and middle names you are considering and try pairing them up
- Swap lists with your spouse (or in my case just give him my list since he wouldn’t make one) and be brutally honest with each other on which ones you dont like
- Test the name by saying it out loud, yelling it (you will do this a lot when they are older!) and writing out the initials to make sure they don’t spell anything. The second time around I also had my almost 2 year old son say the names we were thinking of using.
- Settle on a choice and then tell you cousin to go ahead and cross stitch the name on the baby blanket she is making so you can’t change your mind.
So now you know. When your baby announcement is published I am itching to read the name you chose – and if I like it you will definitely hear about it, if I don’t… you’ll never know.